Many people look to online dating sites as an alternative to finding their match in local in the typical spots. But I want people to be aware that the person you may be chatting with online may not always be who they appear.
Tonight I had a conversation with a gentleman who appeared to be a nice guy. But I had done a background check on him a few days ago.While he said he was from my area, his IP address proved otherwise. We chatted online for a little while tonight and he kept pressuring me for more information - especially my cell # - which I NEVER give out. As we chatted, I noticed long pauses in his replies to me. I asked if her was checking up on me and he replied "LOL" - Of course he was!
I said if you really want to know about me - come to this site and I gave him the direct link. He said it didn't come up. That's strange. Considering when I clicked on the link, the page appeared. I knew something was up.Over and over hekept asking me for my cell # - which I refused.
He said that I had to prove to him that I was who I said I was, and I could only do that by giving him my cell #. I replied by saying, I understand his concerns, however, he needs to understand my position as well. Considering his IP address showed him to be in Woodstock, Il and his name was no where to be found on the NET, muchless in the area he said he lived in. I said yes, I can do background checks as well and if he wanted, I could do a more thorough one. He logged off.
So a word to the dating world out there... always do a background check... if you can't do one on your own, pay someone to do it for you. It is well worth the cost!
And to Jesse Rufox, if you are reading this, well, I guess I am not the one who has something to prove, am I? But, you are still not getting my cell #.
"Investigate Your Date" - THE guide to finding out WHO you are REALLY going out with !!
With very few facts needed to start, the book directs you to websites where you can learn important information such as his full name, age, past and present addresses, people also living at those addresses, and much more. Some websites also provide a time line, so you can see when they lived at those addresses and who the roommates were at that point in time. It can be useful in some circumstances to see maiden names and when those names changed. I also give you tons of tips on how to get the base information you need to start, as well as other searches you need to do to find out additional information on your "target" person. Some of the websites listed in the book are free and others are fee-based - you choose depending how much information you need. I always suggest the free searches first and if that gives you enough information, you may not need to go further.
I have just written a new book for two reasons - the first, I am disabled and since my "temporary" disability is now going on 3 years, I need to find a new source of income !! The second reason and most important though, is that I feel there is a real need for the information contained in this book. If I can help even one woman find out the truth about the guy she is dating before she gets her heart broken (or makes commitments she can't or would rather not have to get out of), then I will have achieved my goal !! (Of course, men can use this book as well !)
Some of my own "horror" stories are included in the book. Plenty of people I have talked to did not think they needed to investigate the person they were dating, until they heard my stories !! For example, there was the guy who never even told me his real name (all I had that was real was a first name, but I tell you how I found out his name and that he was married - not before I had invested almost a year into the relationship and had developed feelings for him - I stopped seeing him right away, of course !!). Another guy told me he was divorced, but not 4 times, and not from his current wife ! Still another guy told me he was single and divorced - when I asked him about two names he had not mentioned that came up in my investigation, he told me one was his sister and the other was a second ex-wife (I was able t confirm this). But, the BIGGEST LESSON I have learned is that you have to keep checking on the guy you are dating (especially using the free sites). If I had continue to keep tabs on a guy I was dating through the 3 years that I dated him, I would have avoided really getting my heart broken. I guess love really is blind - this guy's wife confronted me about having an affair with him - he actually got married to her 2 years after we started dating !! So, he cheated on me with her, and she feels he cheated on her with me - I was there before she was, so we both got our hearts broken (although I think she is still with him - her own stupidity there !!). I have had good experiences with dating also - there really have been more of my dates who have told the truth about themselves than those who have lied. Hopefully this book will keep other people from going through the kinds of things that I have gone through (the heartache in particular) ! I give you tips for collecting the information you need to get started (you will be surprised the very few facts are needed) and I suggest many websites to use in your investigation (both free and fee-based). It will be your decision if you get enough information from the free sites or whether you need to go to some of the fee-based sites. Most of the time, you can get the information you need from the free sites !
PRICES:E-mail - a copy will be sent to your e-mail address for $8.00 (payable by PayPal).Regular mail - a hard copy of the book will be mailed to your street address for $12.00 (which includes the $2.00 shipping/handling). It will arrive in a plain brown envelope, so nobody else will know what you are receiving ! (The book has a copyright, so please do not print out multiple copies or photocopy it – please take into consideration that this is currently one of my only sources of income !)I will have a website set up for the book soon and will post the website when it is ready. Contact me for ordering information !!
Thank you for taking the time to check out my posting ! I invite you comments and criticisms of my book (or even the concept before the book comes out). I will have a section on the book's website, and will include some of those in future printings of the book as well. I sincerely hope this book can be of help !!--Jen
Back when I was just a teenager I ended up getting an STD that was over 10 years ago and yep still got it.
People don't really relize just how easy it is. I wasn't a slut or an easy girl I only had two boyfriends in highschool. Any way because my man of five years left me and now I'm all alone I decided to give something back and build a community where people like me can find love without the hassle of telling them that I'm essencially damaged goods.
It was reasonably hard to do as I'm not very tech savy but I did get a friends of mine to give me a hand. Its a pretty good little STD Dating site and it's free with no ads or anything just there to help out all the people that are going through the same thing I am. Plus it kept me bussy for a while and got my mind off of all the other crap I was dealing with.
Your problem is very common. It tough becoming a middle-aged woman with a lot to offer. Seems like the helpless, pathetic get all the dates. As for a job, keep plugging along, take anything and then keep looking something good will come along. At 40 I just had to come to the realization that men my age are unrealistic and see themselves as being better than they are and its annoying to 40 year olds. Just date younger guys, they are much nicer, not as immature and didn't suddenly pull their heads out of their asses at 38 and decide "Crap! Ive wasted my entire life on my career and now I want to start a family." They've missed the boat and you don't need their agenda. Good luck!
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I am an educated single mother of 40yrs. who is at her wits end because I cannot find a job. I have attended agencies and am told I'm too qualified for one thing and not qualified enough for another.As a result I have fallen behind in my rent and have no money to do anything. To add insult to injury, I have not dated a man in years!!!I am attractive, fairly well groomed and fit and I attend the gym regularly, so what am I doing wrong. PLEASE help.
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